Tale Of An African Woman (2) By fydola

Because I’m a WOMAN!!!

I get into an argument with a man, he slaps me, I feel the pain, and I yell out in misery and hurt, yet they tell me I provoked him.

I should have been quiet, I should have been patient. I should have overlooked it. I should have shown maturity. I should apologize to him.

I get into an argument with a man, I slap him, they tell me I have no respect, no home training. I should have been quiet, I should have been patient. I should apologize to him. Because I am a woman, I don’t have a right to be angry. So the degree of my innocence is directly proportional to the degree of my silence in the face of oppression and brutality…Because I am a woman, my husband cheats on me, I am told to tolerate it to save my marriage. The barbaric and stupid excuse is that “it is in their nature to cheat, I should slim down, dress better, cook better, pray harder and be more pleasant to him.”

I cheat, and I am called a whore, I have committed an abomination. I have no right to look elsewhere for the love and emotional support I lack at home. I am an irresponsible mother. So I am sent packing, from the home we both built, with all my earthly possessions stuffed into a tiny box on my head. I am henceforth forbidden from seeing my two older children, I’m lucky to be allowed to go with my little one still suckling on my left breast. Three years later, the little one is tagged a bastard. Now my new name is “after-three”, because I am woman.

He is 28 and I run a company. The next things I hear are, “Hmmmmm, she is not even married, unserious, cannot order her priorities right, a hustler, loves money, let her go and get a husband oh” and I wonder if being successful has anything to do with a person’s gender.

I am not allowed to have wits or be a prodigy, I cannot be financially buoyant, professionally successful or be treated with or be treated with respect without a man beside me. Then I am tagged a generous leg opener, “a runs girl”. They never see the possibility that I actually had to go through ups and down to get where I am

Because I am a woman, a man loses his wife to death and he decides to remarry a year after, he did the right thing, he’s being praised and congratulated for moving on, after all life is for the living. A woman loses her husband to death and remarries after 4 years, “ahhh! So early? Are you sure she wasn’t sleeping with that man even when her husband was alive? That was why she killed her husband. She’s a witch!”

Because she’s a woman. Because I am a woman, this post will be considered controversial, and everyone will try to correct me. But don’t forget that I am a woman and it does not make me less human!!!

 

 

 

 

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