102 Easy Tips To Make Your Relationship Awesome

I guess the title must have caught your attention. Well, good. One thing you and I both know is that relationships- getting into one, maintaining one, and even getting out of it is hard. Love, living, relationships, and making stuff work generally is not as easy as a lot of people- even our parents make them sound.

You might also be thinking, “How on earth can there be 100 ‘easy’ tips to make my relationship work?” Well, there are. That’s why I’m here.

100 easy tips to make your relationship totally awesome may sound like a stretch but you must remember that nothing good comes easy without a fight. You owe it to yourself and your partner to make the fountain of your relationship flow more. So, you gotta fight for it.

Tip 1: Listen.
The truth is many of us find it pretty hard to listen. It’s much easier to hear ourselves talk than to actually pay attention to your partner or to anyone else. Like Stylecaster writer Julie Gerstein notes, “It might sound obvious, but when you really allow yourself to listen—and ask questions about—what your partner says, it not only leads to better conversations, but also better communication.”

Tip 2: Be Romantic.

With so much going on in our lives, it’s very easy to forget and overlook the small gestures that matter in our relationships. These little things make up romance. Do stuff for your partner to make them feel wanted and appreciated. It never takes much to make your partner feel valued every day.

Tip 3: Get A Support Team.
OK. There are partners who may be too tired to hear every little thing that goes on in your life. So, it’s good you have great friends and family that you can call to talk to when your partner isn’t available.together-team-people-circle-hands-group-support

Tip 4: Appreciate All That Your Relationship Is This Very Second.
Don’t grumble or complain about your relationship. Stop living or imagining an alternate reality than the one you’re already in. Appreciate your partner and your relationship every single day.

Tip 5: Create A Checklist.
Jot down new and fun things you want to accomplish for a day as a duo.checklist2-ss-1920

Tip 6: Find 10 Things You Really Love About Them And Tell Them.
Guys, ladies…find 10 things you love about your partners and tell them. Everyone needs compliments at one point or the other.

Tip 7: Put Away Your Phones.
This is big and it matters to couples a lot. One big and really cool thing you can do is to give your undivided attention when your partner is speaking. It’s is one of the most important things you can do.

Tip 8: Revisit The Questions You Asked In The Beginning.
When you first started dating, there were questions you asked each other.Once in a while, ask these questions to know how far you both have grown and those things that still need to be done.

Tip 9: You Don’t Need To Be Right All The Time. 
Learning to say “I was wrong” and “I’m sorry” are skills worth learning.

Tip 10: Volunteer Together.
You both should volunteer for stuff together. Giving back is a great way to keep perspective of how great your relationship is, and how lucky you both are. 

Tip 11: Talk to Older Couples.
Get relationship tips from them, and see what you can take away to apply to your relationship.

Tip 12: Take A Class Together.
The truth is couples who learn together connect deeper. Find some common ground or subject that interests you both and move from there.

Tip 13: Don’t Nag. 
Seriously, stop. Take a step back and figure out the big things about your partner that truly bother you, and approach them from a place of concern and support instead of nitpicking for sport. That’ll get you nowhere.

Tip 14: Spend A Little Time Apart.
Missing each other is a great way to reconnect. Try grabbing some girlfriends for an overnight or a weekend getaway every few months.

Tip 15: Ask For What You Know You Need.

You’re dating a human, not a magical psychic who can read your thoughts. So, ask when you need something.

Tip 16: Pitch In.
As Stylecast writer Julie Gerstein   notes, “Help each other with chores and other necessary, if banal, activities — cooking, cleaning, re-organizing, etc. Not doing them if you live together can create tension, and always doing them can create unfair expectations. Act as a team of equals.”

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Tip 17: Don’t Try And Complicate Stuff.
Don’t complain when your relationship is going smoothly. It should be a thing of joy but if you bemoan the fact that your relationship is going too well, you might need to revisit why you’re constantly seeking out drama.

Tip 18: Disconnect.
Step away from the laptop during quality time. Everything on the Internet will still be there later.

Tip 19: Don’t Assume He/ She Would Deliberately Hurt Your Feelings.

Why would they want to upset you or hurt you? Give your partner the benefit of the doubt, but if it’s really bothering you, don’t be afraid to bring it up.

Tip 20: Compliment Your Partner Often.
You’re there to make each other feel like your best selves, so let the genuine praise flow freely. Like his outfit? Tell him! Like her hair today? Let her know!

Tip 21: Don’t Go Crazy.
Sometimes bad days and bad moods happen. Don’t go crazy trying to make everything better. Just be supportive and loving, because just being there at the end of a bad day can make it better for both of you.

Tip 22: Only Make Promises That You Can Keep.
Only say those things you can do for your partner. It’ll make you work harder to make them happen. Having—and setting—levels of reasonable expectations for your relationship is a healthy way to keep it strong.

Tip 23: Have Mini- Traditions:
Creating small rituals can really help hold up a couple because they become “your thing.” Whether it’s a fancy night out during the holiday season, or watching a certain show every week, these are things that’ll give you both something to look forward to, and it’ll bring you closer together.

Tip 24: Pay Attention To The Tiny Things That Bother Your Partner And Work To Change Them (if they’re painless enough). LOL.
We’re not talking changing your laugh or your style, but if you know that your partner really hates it when you leave the kitchen counter cluttered, try to make a point of clearing it off before he gets home. It’s an easy enough thing to do and it makes their day better, so why not?

Tip 25: Acknowledge Positive Actions.
When you and your partner see positive actions, solutions, or behavior in one another, acknowledge it and remind each other to keep it up.

Tip 26: Be An Open Book.
They can either deal with it or they can’t, but if you can’t be your most honest self with this person, it’ll come out eventually.

Tip 27: Be Friends With Your Partner’s Friends And Family.
Hang out together with both of your friends and family. This is the stuff that makes the world go ’round, people!

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Tip 28: Never Judge Your Partner When He/ She Seeks Your Advice.
“I won’t judge”. Let that be your motto when you’re giving your partner advice.

Tip 29: Don’t Ever Forget To Ask How His/ Her Day Was. 
It’s sad when no one asks how your day was or what you did today. Give your partner a sense of belonging and care by asking.

Tip 30: Review Your Top Five Favorite Funny Things Your Partner Has Done.
Because your partner is funny! That’s part of why you like them.

Tip 31: Both Of You Can’t Have A Bad Day.  
If your partner’s day sucked and yours was just “eh,” let them have the pity (and the control of the remote, and the choice of take-out). If it’s you, announce it early and let them know you need the support. If it’s a toss-up, trade stories about why your days were so awful and you’ll end up laughing while trying to figure out who wins.

Tip 32: Walk Together.
Take a walk together somewhere quiet and peaceful. And don’t forget to turn off your cell phones.couple-walking-together

Tip 33: Go On A Road Trip. 
Even if you’re not going somewhere far, it’s nice to get out of town sometimes.

Tip 34: Surprise Dinner!
Do something unexpected by surprising your partner with a home-cooked meal, a well-set table and some romantic music

Tip 35: Revisit The Spot/ Place Where You Had Your First Date.
Remember all the amazing things that brought you from then to now.

Tip 36: Never Hold Grudges.
Don’t hold onto that thing your lover said or did six months ago and bring it up each time you get mad at him. Do both of you a favor and let it go

Tip 37: Be Creative With Your Relationship.
Think of your relationship as a creative challenge. To keep the romance fresh, come up with new date ideas, new sex positions, and new ways to demonstrate your love.

Tip 38: Don’t Interrupt Your Partner. 
Even if what you think your significant other is saying is uninteresting, don’t bulldoze over his or her words. Being able to listen to each other—even when the details are mundane—is important.

Tip 39: Plan Small Outings.
Whether its brunch this weekend, or a trip to a new neighborhood.

Tip 40: Always Say Thank You.  
Let him know that you notice the little things he does by saying thank you for routine tasks like walking the dog or picking up groceries.

Tip 41: Pick Up Groceries Without Being Asked.
Without even being asked, make things less stressful for your partner and be helpful.

Tip 42: Keep A Couple’s Journal. 
Write down your desires and fantasies and leave them out for your significant other to find—encourage him to write back.

Tip 43: Take Responsibility For Your Own Happiness
Love is grand, but at the end of the day the only person we can hold accountable for our happiness is ourselves. Do volunteer work, exercise, host dinner parties—find what satisfies you, and go from there.

Tip 44: Play Conversation Games And Other Games.
Conversation can become routine. Break from the ordinary and have a silly dinner conversation made entirely of imaginary situations—for example, “If you were on an island and could only bring five things, which things would you bring?couple-playing-video-games

Tip 45: Set Goals. 
In addition to setting life goals, set relationship goals. For example: We aim to spend more time together outside rather than on the Internet.

Tip 46: Express Gratitude For The Little Things, And For Specific Things. 
Big gestures are great, but it’s great to recognize the little things your partner does that make you feel happy and loved, too.

Tip 47: Cuddle.
Make ample time for cuddling. Whether or not it leads to sex, physical affection is important.

Tip 48: Learn How You Both Handle Conflict.
Make an effort to understand you and your partner’s conflict habits so you can break bad patterns and find a middle ground that’s productive and respectful.

Tip 49: Take Turns Planning Real Date Nights.

Takeout and TV don’t count. Take each other out.

Tip 50: Give Each Other A Pet Name. 
It may be super annoying to other people (and you may want to reserve it for when you’re in private), but a pet name can add an extra layer of intimacy to your relationship.

Tip 51: Really Look At Each Other. 
We spend a lot of time with our partners but sometimes we don’t actually see them. Take the time to really look at them and to appreciate their features.b62054ecedfa58e3414dc1b3fffb869f

Tip 52: Don’t Forget To Say “I Like You.”
The greatest compliment you can give a partner (especially a long-term partner) is reminding them that not only do you love them, but also like them.

Tip 53: Approach Your Partner’s Issues In The Context Of How They Affect The Relationship.
It’ll reduce the chances they feel personally attacked for no reason.

Tip 54: Do Something Spontaneous And Exciting.  
Send him a text as he’s about to go on his lunch break, take time out on a Saturday, however you want to play it.

Tip 55: Be Interested In What Your Partner Does.
He’s into chess, engineering, or cheese, or cheese that looks like a chess board (maybe?). You don’t have to love it, but give it a shot. You may surprise yourself!

Tip 56: But Cultivate Your Own Interests Too. 
You and your partner don’t need to have everything in common. Seriously. That’s actually really annoying.

Tip 57: Ask For Clarity When You Don’t Understand Something.
If you’re confused about what your partner means, ask for clarity instead of making assumptions about what they mean. Use an open phrase like, “What did you mean when you said, ‘xyz’” rather than instantly going on the offensive.

Tip 58: Let Your Partner Teach You Something They’re Good At, And Vice Versa.
Everyone—everyone—loves the feeling of being able to teach somebody they like about something they’re good at.

Tip 59: Have A Bed Day.
Allow yourselves a totally lazy day where you lie around and do nothing of note except enjoy each other’s company.

Tip 60: Tell Him/ Her You Love Them. 
While “I love you,” is an extraordinary thing to say—and an equally wonderful thing to hear—it means something different to each person. Tell each other what you’re saying when you declare these magic words. It could be a list of many sentiments such as, “I would do anything for you,” and “I trust you completely.”

Tip 61: Tell Them EXACTLY Why You Love And Appreciate Them As Often As Possible. 
“I love you” is good. “I love the way you make sure no one ever feels left out” is even better.

Tip 62: Check Your Competitive Edge.
You and your partner are there to support each other, not compete with one another. If you find yourself comparing yourself or competing with your significant other, check your behavior. That’s not healthy!

Tip 63: Let Your Partner Teach You Something They’re Good At, And Vice Versa.
Everyone—everyone—loves the feeling of being able to teach somebody they like about something they’re good at.

Tip 64: Don’t Be Jealous.
Jealousy can be completely toxic to relationships, so keep yours in check. If you’re always jealous, figure out if it’s your personal issue, or if your partner is doing things to appear less trustworthy.black-couple-50-percent-of-women-have-back-up-plan

Tip 65: Have A Cultural Experience Together.
See a movie, a play, or an art exhibition together — and then talk about them afterward. You may be pleasantly surprised by how differently—or similarly—you viewed things.

Tip 66: Talk On The Phone.
Yes, I know this sounds crazy, but phone calls are a different sort of communication than texting, or even in person communicating will allow. You may actually deepen your connection through a phone chat.

Tip 67: Don’t Try To Control Your Partner.
A relationship isn’t a battle of wills, it’s two people who are choosing to be together, so don’t treat your partner like they’re some kind of wild animal you’re trying to tame.

Tip 68: Think Before You Say Something You Don’t Mean. 
Before you say something you don’t mean, take a breath and ask yourself if that’s really the way you want to move forward. Chances are, taking a second out will help you re-calibrate and think of a more constructive way of handling the situation.

Tip 69: Date Like You Dated In High School.
Ask each other out. Get excited. Take forever to get ready. Make out. Repeat.

Tip 70: Take A Long Bike Ride.
Bike rides are deeply freeing experiences, and it’s nice to be able to do that with someone you love.

Tip 71: Let Yourself Be Taken Care Of When You Need It.

We all need special care on occasion. Let your partner help you when you’re feeling sick or down. It doesn’t mean you’re not strong, it just means you’re willing to accept help.

Tip 72: Embrace Your Common Goals.
What is it that you both want to accomplish? Can you support each other to reach those goals? That’ll be a big piece of what will hold you two to together as a couple in the long run.

Tip 73: Make A Music Mix For Each Other. 
It’s cute, romantic and something out of a rom-com. Although in this day and age, you might want to make a Spotify playlist rather than a mixed CD.

Tip 74: In Your Craziest Moments Of Frustration Or Anger, Remember What It Is That You Like About Them The Most. 
There’s a reason you’re with them after all, right?

Tip 75: Enjoy The Quiet Moments You Spend With Each Other. 
Not everything has to be a big adventure or a big deal. Sometimes, the best times are the quiet unplanned things you do together.

Tip 76: The Best Relationships Are Ones In Which Both Partners Feel Like The Luckiest Person In The World. 
Find ways to communicate that and foster that feeling in each other, and you’ll be good.

Tip 78: Remember That A Relationship Should Always Make Your Life Better On The Whole, Not Worse.
And aim to make sure yours is doing just that. If it’s not, it may be time to reconsider.

Tip 79: Forget The Past.
We often let our past hurts dictate our present. Learn to let go of past resentments and fears in order to live more fully with your partner right now.

Tip 80: Be His/ Her Biggest Cheerleader.
If your partner’s accomplished something amazing, let them know it, and let them shine.01-spouse-feel-good-compliment

Tip 81: Keep Yourself In Check.
We spend so much time paying attention to how our partners behave, but take a second to notice how you’re acting — especially if you’re fired up or in a bad mood. And then give yourself a second to calm down.

Tip 82: Be Present. 
We can ruin a perfectly great relationship by focusing too much on the past, or worrying too much about what may happen in the future. Learn to enjoy where you are, and who you’re with right now.

Tip 83: Laugh Together In bed. 

Sex should be sexy, sure. But it should also be fun. Don’t be afraid to have a laugh if things take a turn for the ridiculous.

Tip 84: Turn The TV Off.
Why not try instituting a TV-free night in your apartment? See what else happens when you spend time together sans the talking box.

Tip 85:Give Each Other A Pet Name. 
It may be super annoying to other people (and you may want to reserve it for when you’re in private), but a pet name can add an extra layer of intimacy to your relationship.

Tip 86: Truly Look At Each Other. 
We spend a lot of time with our partners but sometimes we don’t actually see them. Take the time to actually look into one another’s eyes.

Tip 89: Travel Together.
Seeing the world together creates amazing shared memories.

Tip 90: Cook Together.

Come up with a menu, shop, and prepare the food together.

Tip 91: Log Onto Instagram And Like All Their Photos.
Just because you can. LOL.

Tip 92: Invite Your Partner Into More Closeness Once A Day By Playing A Simple Empathy Game.

Each person thinks of an event in their day. Then you take turns at reading each other’s face and trying to pinpoint whether you see one of the six basic emotions: joy, surprise, sadness, anger, shame/embarrassment or some kind of fear. See if your guess is right. Learning to tune in matters!

Tip 93: Reminisce.
What’s worse than living in the past? Ignoring it altogether and never taking a moment to reflect on the happy times you’ve shared along the way. “Reminiscing together strengthens your bond and your sense of history together,” says an author. After all, the fact that you’ve been together for as long as you have can say a lot about how much you mean to each other and how well you know each other. Remember that B&B where you sat on that porch swing for hours on end? Remember the incredible gourmet meal you shared on your 30th birthday?

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Tip 94: Ask Your Partner For Advice.
Want to give your guy an ego boost while showing him how much you respect him, all at the same time? It’s easy: Ask him to guide you through solving a problem you’re having at work or with a friend or family member. “People need to feel needed,” says Meyers. “And asking for help is a great way to show your partner that you depend on him in a healthy way.” Requesting his assistance and support is sure to make him feel important, especially if you follow his advice and let him know it led to a favorable outcome.

Tip 95: Kiss More Often
Remember kissing? We’re not talking about the 2-second peck on the lips – we’re talking those deep, slow, mouth-open kisses. You both used to look forward to it, greet each other with it, brag to your friends about it. So how did it get so completely lost in the shuffle? “Kissing becomes a forgotten act for many couples in long-term relationships, unless it’s during foreplay,” says Kerner. “But kissing is probably the simplest, sexiest act there is.” In fact, he says, “Couples who kiss regularly tend to have sex more frequently.” And sex doesn’t need to be the only incentive; sometimes relationships just need a little mouth-to-mouth resuscitation.

Tip 96: Send Flowers For No Reason
That’s right: Flowers aren’t just for us ladies! Men may be teased a bit at the office for receiving roses, but inside most will just feel adored. You know your guy best, though, and flowers are just one example – any gift will do. Food gifts, such as cookie basket, are also a good bet. “Men are trained to give us flowers and little gifts,” says Amatenstein. “How appreciative he’ll be to receive his own!” As an added advantage, showing him how good it feels may lead him to send you a gift back at some point, as well.

Tip 97: Go To Religious Services Together.
Varying religious beliefs may be one of the most common causes for break-ups, even divorce, but the opposite is also true. “Studies have shown that sharing a belief in something outside oneself is a powerful marital glue,” says Amatenstein. “And couples who pray together are less likely to stray.” So visit your church, synagogue or mosque together regularly to center yourselves as individuals and as a couple. Sermons, and even your spirituality as a whole, can lead to illuminating conversations about your morals and upbringing.

Tip 98: Have An Impromptu Dance Party For Two.
Long week? Let loose! Turning on some tunes, cranking up the volume and getting jiggy with it can break tension of all kinds for a twosome. It reintroduces silliness to your relationship and breaks down barriers, especially when things have reached the point of all seriousness all the time. “A dance party for two can be incredibly fun and sexy,” says Kerner. Feeling a little risqué? “Start fast and then end slow, removing a few items of clothing in between.” Sounds like a vote for “Sexual Healing!”

Tip 99: Offer A Massage.
“Giving your partner a massage is a great way to let him indulge in the sensual pleasures of sex – and to surrender to the power of arousal,” explains Kerner. “A sexy massage may lead to sex or to a variety of different paths to gratification.” But if you really want to make him feel pampered, here’s the secret: Don’t ask for anything in exchange – not sex and not a reciprocated massage or anything else. Make it all about him. (It will be your turn another time).

Tip 100: Go To Bed At The Same Time.

Feel like you never have a free moment together? Hitting the sack at the same time will help. “Bedtime might be the only opportunity you’re alone together all day,” says Barton Goldsmith, PhD, author of The Happy Couple: How to Make Happiness a Habit One Little Loving Thing at a Time. Even if you’re a night owl, you can always stay in bed until your partner drifts off.

Tip 101: Work Up A Sweat.

It’s no secret that getting buff helps you out in the bedroom by boosting your endurance, strength, and flexibility—but a sweat session also has more immediate effects. Endorphins from exercise give you an adrenaline rush that boosts arousal.

Tip 102: Institute A Daily Check-In.

In an article on Readers’ Digest, it is noted that “Marriage experts recommend couples do something that big business has employed for decades to keep workers happy, productive, and in the loop: hold regular team meetings. Luckily, yours will be more fun than listening to Martin from accounting go over the last month’s sales numbers”. One version of the daily check-in helps couples keep communication flowing freely with an agenda.

  • Start by appreciating something about each other.
  • Offer up some new information from your day.
  • Ask your spouse about something that has bothered or puzzled you (or something about yourself).
  • Make a nonjudgmental, complaint-free request (“Please fold the towels when you do the laundry. I couldn’t find any this morning after my shower…and stuff like that.

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