How Not To Expect When You’re Expecting (From People)

The biggest reason why we most often get disappointed in life is when we expect too much from people…most often the wrong people. In our relationships and interactions with others, we expect too much- we feel, most times unconsciously, that once someone makes a promise or says something, they will fulfill it. However, people tend…

17 Easy Ways To Stay Poor (For As Long As You Want)

So you might be thinking, “what kind of blog post is this?” Well, the kind of blog post that is meant to show exactly how people set themselves up for poverty and for failure in life. I was wrote in an earlier blog post that “there is no rest for the successful” but in this…

Were you really born that way?

I see a lot of people claiming rights over an attitude, habit or character…most often the bad type and they say “I was born that way”. I see some with a distinct lack of drive and enthusiasm in those things that are more than enough in giving them an upper hand in life. And there…

The Art Of Making Yourself Happy

I used to think that being happy was something that people triggered in you. I felt that happiness was something you could only feel either when people are happy or when they deliberately tried to make you laugh. I also felt that happiness was dictated by material possessions. I tried so hard to find happiness…

#MondayMotivation: How To Make The Most Of Your Day

I start dreading Mondays on Saturdays. I mean I have to physically and mentally prepare myself for Monday- the one day of the week that unsettles me. That makes me wanna curl up and not go to work or do anything. But as someone told me recently, “no rest for the successful”. I’ve come to…

6 Sure Signs You’re Definitely Crushing

At some points in our lives, we have crushed on one or two persons. We tend to deny this fact and claim it is just a random feeling. Crushing on someone is actually not a bad feeling. It becomes bad when you get in trouble as a result of the crush. Are you having that…

Making the most of my life before I’m ’30’

30 for some people is the age to get laid, to get a new job, to get married, to acquire some degree, and other wishes in our bucket list. Many times, we dream of things we wish to achieve before the big’’30’’ and by the time we know it, we wake up to realize we…

A Woman, Not A Puppet

I’ve been thinking about whether to post this or not but….. “I have accepted you. I have chosen you. I see you differently because you are from my place. You are my final bus stop. If you like, I can impregnate you (he was touching my abdomen) right now and pay your bride price tomorrow…..”…

Everyone makes mistakes…but you should avoid these 5 while dating

There are some mistakes that we get into and we find it easy to move on, there are some mistakes that actually gets one into guilt and feeling of displeasure and some of the mistakes are due to youthful exuberance, wrong relationships, upbringing and self-will. Often times, these mistakes have long lasting effects on our…

10 Easy Tips To Treating A Woman Right

This may be difficult to digest for some of my readers who believe I’m a man, but that’s the marvel of the internet, right? I could be. Men don’t like to admit their affection…but having a little more affection does not make you less a man, below are 10 ways to treat a woman right…

Dear Lara, I Think I Masturbate Too Much. I Need Your Help

Dear Lara,  I am a 21 years old lady. I have been masturbating since i was 15, I do it by crossing my legs and clenching my thigh muscles and leg muscles. I do it anytime I feel upset or when I feel tired, sometimes before, after, or during sleep. In fact, I do not…

You Love Being Afraid. Here’s Why.

Perhaps, one of the greatest challenges I faced in my failed relationships was the fear of the unknown. This fear was so gripping that it translated into a vicious and cancerous insecurity that ate me up. I became assumptuous, unnecessarily jealous and suspicious; my mind became the devil’s playground. Few months into the relationships, I…